I was over at Mutiara Damansara a few days ago with my family and extended family, it is always fun getting together as my husband is a very family oriented person. I have to admit it does get overwhelming for me at times as I am more of a loner, don't blame me for being anti social but I was an only child, pretty sheltered and often kept to myself and in case you are asking, I am an introvert.... but I do enjoy it from time to time...
My extended family is unique... being my husband's ex wife and well, their kids, but I for one understand and know how important my husband's kids are to him and also how important it is NOT to separate a father from his kids, since I was one of those unfortunate kids that was separated from her father since my parents got divorced.
I cannot comprehend how some people can be so shallow as to use their kids as bargaining tools or to be so selfish as to deprive the relationship between a parent (mother or father) and their children...
Insecurity? Selfishness? I really do not know but I really feel it is bad enough when parents sometimes get divorced but it is extremely cruel to the children when one parent use the kid as a bargaining chip or when the parents get remarried and the new spouse do their utmost best to severe the ties of his or her new wife/husband with their children from a previous marriage....
I have been married to my husband for 12 years, going on 13 years now, and both of us have a reasonably good relationship with our exes. It shows our kids solidarity in raising them. Yeah, there are times we fight with out exes too but for the children's benefit but well, at the end of the day, we raised all our kids with both sets of parents' love.
A step parent may not be able to love a step child as much as their own maternal/ paternal parent... and from the start, I never choose to get in my husband or his ex wife's way of raising their children. I told my step children I am there as their step mom, they can rely on me, I will provide whatever I can, whenever I can, I will support them and be there for them and love them, but I am well aware I can not love them as their own mom's own unconditional and selfless love.
Ok..ok... stop... I am probably boring you with this relationship talk... hehehe... but well, for the past 12 to 13 years, my husband's ex wife has become a huge important part in my life and she is like a sister to me, and God Mother to my daughter....
We go for holidays together and yeap... we spent New Year's Eve together.... and I even call her parents Mummy and Daddy.. that is how unique and close our relationship is... and they are all very dear and important to me...
So this is just one of our dinners together....
The cafe we had dinner in is well, the Pholio Cafe. This cafe is kind of a sports themed cafe. It is also somewhat a little out of the way and in the quiet residential suburb area of Mutiara Damansara. It is owned by a very nice guy, Mr Vijian and sub owned by Malaysian/ Selangor Footballer Shahril Arsat.
I love the simple design of the cafe, where even the tables outside the cafe is actually made from an oil drum and a square of wood...
The decoration inside the cafe is also pretty simple and tasteful with well, football paraphernalia, trophies, books and sorts...
There are also a few Japanese souvenirs around.....
As a sports theme cafe, they naturally serve up loads of drinks, from coffee, tea, Japanese Matcha, chocolate, fruit smoothies and so on.... Most of the coffee are Italian blends and delicious and fragrant...
As for 'noms' they have a reasonable pretty good selection as well....and fairly priced...
While waiting for everyone to arrive, my husband went for a smoke, and so I ordered the Mocha Frappucino... absolutely heavenly on a hot sweltering day.......or when you just walked in from the humid evening outside....
When everyone was here.... we then ordered our meals.....
Despite swearing to cut down rice, I could not resist the Nasi Lemak Kukus Ayam (RM8.90) here. My youngest girl insisted on two plates!!! The rice have been soaked in coconut milk for a few hours before painstakingly steamed the traditional way over open fire for the next 4 hours resulting in soft, fluffy and very fragrant rice... and the chicken is also well marinated to give you the right taste and scented with all the herbs and spices....crunchy on the outside and juicy and succulent on the inside... Don't get me started on the sambal...It is just the perfect accompaniment...
The nasi lemak is a hand me down recipe since 1948....
It is really good.... Definitely a 4 1/2 stars out of 5 if you were to ask me....and two thumbs up!!! You really have to try this to know what I am talking about...
The Grilled Chicken Chop (RM18.90) both my step daughter and her mom ordered,comes served with potato wedges, coleslaw and baked vegetables... and you have the option of ordering it with black pepper sauce or mushroom sauce... and believe me when I tell you this is another highly recommended dish... well flavored and cooked perfectly....
This would be the Grilled Lamb Shoulder (RM22.90) which my step daughter's boyfie had... and just as the Grilled Chicken Chop, it was well seasoned, well grilled with all the flavors...I know because we all stole bites from each other's plates in case you were wondering.... hahaha
My husband opted for the Fish 'n' Chips (RM18.90) and he definitely enjoyed his meal.. Those who know my husband can tell you he is a very fussy eater, and now since he suffered from stroke (last year) and having recovered , seem to be an even much more picky eater, much to our frustration but he definitely enjoyed his Fish 'n' Chips to the last bite here....
Tadaaa... here are some candid shots of members of my family/ extended family enjoying our meal here....
Verdict would be this place is really yummy.... and you should really take the time and trouble to come check it out.. It will be worth your while.
On football game nights, I think there will be live shows on the wall via the projector for you to enjoy with the range of drinks and food too...
Address: Jalan PJU 7/16, Mutiara Damansara, 47820 Petaling Jaya, Selangor, Malaysia
Phone:+60 3-7731 9088
Hours:
Open daily except for Sundays · 11:00 AM – 11:00 PM
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ReplyDeletememang sedap....
Deleteits rare to have such a close relationship with your extended family :) true that those bonds are very important in life. btw looks like pholio has tonnes of good western food as well. at first i thought they are only famous for the nasi lemak hahha
ReplyDeleteyes, it is indeed rare as it needs the cooperation and understanding of all parties but we pulled it off and made it good... and yes, Pholio has great grill dishes too....
DeleteWow, this is one deep personal story to share, im really proud of yourself and husband for making things work for the both of you, your kids and everyone around. I guess you are keeping it together. That Nasi Lemak Kukus Ayam makes me wanna chew my tongue, already salivating
ReplyDeleteCome on to Malaysia and go visit this cafe!!!
DeleteThe food looks lovely! Your family seems to enjoy it! Am gonna bookmark this place next! Saw ur post on Fb for this place too hehe was awaiting the review hehe
ReplyDeleteit is very yummy, not only nice looking... hehehe and yes, my family enjoyed it all
DeleteHi Miera! cool thoughts...you have such a big heart and keep it up. Most important in life is to live happily and be more tolerance too. Great place you visited there...Happy New Year 2016!
ReplyDeleteThanks Cindy... you too... Happy New Year and I am telling you... go check out the place... it is awesome
Deletewow! the nasi lemak ayam kukus looks not bad huh.. nice place to dine and enjoy the live football match! :P
ReplyDeleteThe food and ambience look lovely. But I got distracted by the complexity of your family relationships! LOL
ReplyDeleteLOL
DeleteLovely meal.. The cafe looks superb! Yummy!
ReplyDeleteSuch unique relationship with the extended family.
ReplyDeleteHope you enjoy the meal with lots of family members.
i definitely did....
DeleteOh! It's just nearby my place! Shall check out soon :D
ReplyDeleteNearby?? Then you REALLY have to check it out or you will be missing out some great food...
Deletethanks for sharing this. i think it's rare, but it is certainly possible to foster relationship with people, regardless their past. and Miera, i admire your big heart to maintain good relationship with extended family. ;) keep it up!
ReplyDeleteThanks GengQian.... I prefer to make love then war.... heheheh
DeleteHi, you're such a great women with a big hearth. Love your story that love isn't selfish. I love your family pictures, they seem realy enjoy the food and holiday
ReplyDeleteyeah... thanks for the compliments.. I love peace and for everyone to be happy... so naturally it all comes through..... and the food is really good here...
DeleteThe ayam goreng look like very nice.. drooling..
ReplyDeleteit is very nice.... heheh
Deletelooks like the food is awesome. i am eye-ing on the ayam goreng
ReplyDeletethat ayam goreng is to die for....but no need to die, just go to Pholio cafe and order it... you will love it
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